Who Will I Be Now?


A woman smiling while drinking coffee.

Who will I be?

I left my office job on September 1, 2017 to be a stay-at-home mom. I had a strong desire to be at home and soak up those sweet early childhood moments. As I said goodbye to my coworkers, I vowed to return when my twins went to kindergarten.

My twins left for kindergarten – five years to the day of my work departure.

Since that day, so much has changed both in the world and in me. I became a real estate agent and joined an amazing team of professionals, I managed as a working mom through a global pandemic, and I got the time I wanted to have with my children as “littles” before they went off to “real school.” I did what I set out to do when I left that job five years ago, but I won’t be calling to beg for my job back.

The twins get their new start in kindergarten, and so do I. The public school schedule allows time alone, that I’ve never had before. I’m excited about my new start as well.

Last September, I wrote a back-to-school bucket list for moms. Guess what? I failed most of what I promised I would do.

This school year, I’m back! With all three kids taking the bus and leaving the house from 8-3:30, I promise to be better than ever. I am better at self-care, a better friend, a better community member, and better in my profession.

Now I sit back and ask myself, who will I be now?

Will I be a calmer mom? A mom who doesn’t have to bring three children to every errand and appointment she has? A mom who can be more present when she is with her children because she was able to have time alone?

Will I get to those house projects and purge the toys no one played with all summer?

Will I get to give back and spend my free time helping the community?

Will I finally meet that friend for lunch?

Will I run freely outside and get in those extra-strength workouts I’ve always promised to do?

Will I continue to grow my business?

While my children are off to school learning and growing, I’ll be home doing the same. I look forward to becoming the next version of myself.

Who will you be this school year?

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Jamie is a real estate agent with The Valentini Team at William Raveis Real Estate www.thevalentinigroup.com and mom to a daughter (2014) and boy and girl twins (2016). Together with her husband (married in 2011); they made the move from Westchester County, NY, to Northern Fairfield County, CT and are raising three children and a cockapoo in Danbury, CT. Jamie previously worked in the field of early childhood education and now enjoys practicing it at home. As a full time real estate agent she uses her background in education to educate her clients on all aspects of home buying and selling. In her spare time Jamie enjoys spending time in the community with her family, visiting favorite parks and hiking trails, exploring local shops and restaurants, and volunteering. She never says no to a night out with her childhood girlfriends and their nights out are fueled by laughter. She can be found on the Peloton leaderboard at 6:30 every morning. Her family enjoys fostering puppies for a local animal rescue.


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