Owning Privilege: Resources for My Fellow White Mothers

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owning privilege

I am a white mother. That is my privilege. With this privilege, my two white sons can leave the house with little worries.

I am a teacher. This gives me positional power. My positional power, which I did nothing to earn, allows my voice to be heard and respected by virtue of “the system.”

As we all know, with great power comes great responsibility. My responsibility as a white woman is to continue to challenge systemic racism. (Systemic racism, if you are unsure of the definition I’m using is, “Collective racial prejudice backed by legal authority and institutional control” ~ Dr. Robin DiAngelo). My profession gives me a responsibility to teach the truth to my students, to enlighten them, and awaken their souls to injustice, inequality, and oppression. It is my job to empower the young souls to speak up against these things.

Saying things like, “I don’t see color,” “I’m colorblind,” and “I treat everyone the same” is actually counterproductive. Those who profess not to see race, risk ignoring discrimination, and then continuing the situation. Also, white people should not call themselves an ally to the cause. It is not self-defined. Work and efforts must be recognized by those you are seeking to ally with.

So what can you do? Explore your racial identity. (As white people, many of us rarely have to think about the color of our skin). Listen. Learn. And listen some more. Push yourself to learn even more than you thought there was to learn. I have been learning as a white woman for over 20 years, and there is still much I don’t know. I am no expert, but what I do know is where to turn for help. 

Here is a shortlist of resources and remember, “The system isn’t broken. It was built that way.” ~ Brene Brown

Anti-Racism Resources for White People 

Being an Anti-Racist

Beyond the Golden Rule: A Parent’s Guide to Preventing and Responding to Prejudice

The Conscious Kid

Equal Justice Initiative

Ibram X. Kendi 

Talking About Race

Understanding Race and Privilege 

Your Kids Aren’t Too Young to Talk about Racism: Resource Round-Up

What Can I Do? Empowering Allies in Tumultuous Times 

White Accomplices

White Fragility (Robin DiAngelo)

75 Things White People Can Do for Racial Justice

The 2020 Ultimate List of Diverse Children’s Books

135 Racial Equity Resources For Education, Professional & Community Development, Health, And Civil Rights​​​​​​​

Let us know if you have any additional resources to share. 

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Maria Sette
Maria is a full-time mom, teacher, wife, daughter, and sister, who feels pulled in too many directions! Her older son Michael took over 24 hours to be born, and at six-months-old was diagnosed with allergies to dairy, eggs, nuts, soy, shrimp, and wheat…all after exclusively nursing because she was SO SURE that would help him be a healthy kid. Luckily at age 1, he began to outgrow some of his allergies. Fingers crossed the others will soon follow because that plus a husband who doesn’t eat any veggies and Maria always battling her weight makes for three meals to prepare every night. Luckily, Christopher, her younger son, is a cooperative eater! As someone who has always been committed to making positive change, Maria uses her privilege and position as an educator and mom to work toward a most anti-racisit, equitibile, and inclusive world. Recently, Maria has even started getting up at 5am to workout in her basement. (Thank you pandemic living!) She is addicted to reading chicklit on her Kindle app in the dark, most Trader Joe’s products, and watching TikToks.

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