Dear iPhone, I Need Some Space


iPhone(sigh) The good old days…before the iPhone.

Imagine there was a time when you weren’t constantly barraged by communication. Instead of texting or emailing, there was only snail mail and landlines.

Imagine that If you were out, you couldn’t be interrupted. Grocery shopping was grocery shopping. It wasn’t grocery shopping and fielding calls. You didn’t pump gas and answer emails. You didn’t watch a kids’ soccer game and text with your mom. You didn’t try to take a picture and have a phone call pop up in the middle of the shot.

I know that smartphones have made us all feel safer and more connected. They’ve also made life more convenient. On any given day, I use my phone to make shopping lists, take pictures, get directions, and keep appointments. But the greatest strength of a smartphone is having everything in one place on one device. It is also its greatest fault.

I feel like I am always on my phone, and I hate it.

I don’t like to be answering emails all day long so that I don’t forget to reply to something that came in. I don’t like to be distracted by spam calls or texts. I don’t like how people stand around staring at their phones instead of talking with one another.

I also don’t want to model behavior for my kids that I know will drive me crazy in their teen years. When I tell them to hold on while writing an email, I imagine them telling me to hold on while they text a friend. When I find myself reading an article on my phone while I’m waiting, I imagine my kids older and zoned out instead of talking to their friends.

To battle smartphone overload, I’ve tried to limit how much time my iPhone and I are together. Some things that work for me include leaving my phone on its charger instead of in my pocket. If I’m out, I try leaving my iPhone in the car. I’ve also stopped mindlessly checking social media and have tried limiting any reading I do on my screen. Finally, I’ve set aside three times a day to check and answer emails.

I know we’re all used to the convenience of smartphones, but do we really need to be accessible all the time?

How is your relationship with your smartphone? Do you need a break?

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Kate S. is a mom at home in Fairfield with her 4 kids (2 girls and 2 boys) and one puppy. Kate's sister introduced her to Chris, whom she married in 2010. They welcomed their first daughter in 2012, a son in 2014, another daughter in 2016, another boy in 2018, and finally a puppy in 2021. Kate and Chris's parenting motto would probably be, "Just take them with you." As a family, they continue to enjoy activities like skiing, kayaking, and hiking by taking turns to teach the older kids or strapping babies into backpacks. Kate can be found out and about exploring with her kids, volunteering at their schools, or laughing with other moms at the beautiful chaos of life with children.


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