So much about parenting changes over time; however, one thing that I don’t think will ever change is the need for a village. To be candid, in a household with two working parents, managing time is an exercise in mental acrobatics. This is especially true as my kids are getting older.
I have noticed recently how our relationships and friendships change with our children’s lead. Naturally, the people I spend most of my time with are the people who have kids with things in common with my kids. I have come to need and appreciate people who treat my children like their own.
Life is busy, and when my kids were babies and toddlers, I wouldn’t say I liked asking for help. My husband and I managed to do a lot on our own, but as our kids entered elementary age, we began to find ourselves in situations where we needed to outsource.
Without the village of “dance moms,” my daughter would not be able to participate in as much as she does. There have been situations where each of us has stepped up to help the whole group. My daughter knows she can go to any of them if she needs something.
The same can be said for my neighbor, who steps in to help us out with our kids and goes above and beyond all the time.
It takes a village to raise children. Everyone plays a role; teachers, coaches, childcare professionals, friends, and so on. I have learned that my children can learn so much from people who are not my husband and me. Having so many trusted adults in their corner and ours benefits us all.
My advice is not to worry too much about finding a village. Most times, the village will find you.
