Finding Balance in the Chaos


balancing chaosThe hardest job in the world is being a mom. Whether you are a stay-at-home mom working to keep your household functioning at its best or you are a working mom, our jobs are tough! We have to be fully committed to multiple things at all times, and sometimes the stress of it all can be overwhelming. Finding balance can sometimes be very hard.

Here are some tips on how to achieve success in the juggling act that is being a mom.

Say Yes to Less

You don’t have to say yes to every parent association event, party invitation, or extracurricular activity if it ends up causing you more anxiety than enjoyment. Determine how much your schedule can handle and choose the activities that your children will enjoy the most. Don’t feel bad about saying no to some of the things presented to you. Having too much to do takes all of the fun out of the experience and leaves no time for the much-needed time that you need to reset.

Try to Save Time

To get the most done in the least amount of time, stay organized with calendars and lists, and always plan ahead. You are the one in charge of keeping track of doctor’s appointments, sports games and practices, baking for the bake sale, remembering birthdays, music lessons, staying on top of clothes and sizes, knowing what’s in the fridge and what needs to be replenished, to name a few. To help with some of this, you can order your groceries online and use curbside pick-up or have them delivered to your house; this saves time AND ensures that you don’t forget anything. Prepare outfits and lunches the night before so that you can enjoy your morning instead of rushing to get out the door on time. Mornings without arguments are such a nice way to start the day!

Date Your Partner

The key to a happy home starts with a happy marriage. Make your marriage or relationship a priority. This will set the tone in your household. Try your best to go out on regular date nights. Try to do things outside of the box, not just your favorite restaurant. Instead, try something like a couples massage, escape room, bowling, etc. Doing fun things with your partner helps the work/life balance be more manageable.

Self-Care/Find Your Village

Finding time for yourself is paramount in maintaining balance within the hectic schedule of the day-to-day. Moms always seem to put their own needs last to take care of everyone else first. But if you aren’t taking care of yourself, how can you expect to take care of anyone else? Engaging in self-care at least once a day is needed for your sanity! Whether it’s a longer shower, eating your favorite dessert alone once everyone goes to bed, exercising, or reading a good book, make sure that it is happening each day for a minimum of 20 minutes.

Finding your village, aka other mothers going through the same stage of life as you, is also important. These other moms become your sounding boards and are trial and error parenting just like you! Places I found a lot of my mom friends are gym classes, the library, and of course, school. The social connections make a world of difference for any mom.

Take care of yourselves mamas! We have the most challenging jobs around, and we also have each other to lean on. Let’s give ourselves, our partners, and our kids the best lives possible! Finding balance doesn’t have to be so hard. 

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Melissa was born and raised in Fairfield County. She currently lives in Stamford with her husband and their three children. She works in Fairfield as a children’s mental health therapist, which is a dream job for her and brings more joy and fulfillment than she ever had in the corporate world. She spends most of her free time outside of mom/wife/therapist duties, on her Peloton, browsing the aisles at Target, online shopping, or enjoying nights out with her girlfriends. You can also find her on Instagram @the_storied_mind where she creates posts in the hopes of helping others and breaking the stigma for people to reach out for help in terms of their mental health.


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