Your Child’s Therapist Isn’t Perfect


A speech therapist working with a boy.As your child’s therapist, there are reasons we can’t be friends on social media. One, of course, is maintaining a professional boundary. The other is that you’d probably think I was a fraud. I’m not perfect. I can barely keep my kids from fighting or jumping off the bookcase when I’m out of the room.

In this profession, it’s imperative that I don’t share too many personal details. My therapy sessions are about my patients, not me. They are about their progress, not mine. They are about their stories, not my own.

I’ve been accused of being “perfect.” Of having all of the answers. Or giving all of the correct advice. But the thing is, that’s my job. I’m required to know what your child is supposed to be doing at any given age. It’s my job to coach parents on how to best work with their child. It’s my job to teach caregivers how to quell tantrums and set boundaries.

But the truth is my house is a mess. My kids scream and fight. I don’t get a shower on days I don’t work. My kids need extra help in school. I have PPT meetings too. I stress eat chocolate and hide in my bathroom when I need a break.

In many ways, I’m just like you. I just can’t show you that side of me.

You’ve come to me because of my expertise in my field, not for me to vent to you. So if you think your child’s therapist has the perfect life because we have all the answers for you, just know that we often don’t have those answers for ourselves.

Your child’s therapist isn’t perfect. But hopefully, we are the perfect therapist for your child.

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Charity is originally from CT, but grew up in New Hampshire. She returned to CT in 2000 for college, and currently resides in Monroe with her husband (married in 2011) and three children (A son born in 2012 and identical twin daughters born in 2017). Charity works part time as a Speech-Language Pathologist for the CT Birth to Three system. She thinks it's the best of both worlds because she gets to work in a job she loves (and needs to pay off those hefty grad school loans!) and be home a few days a week with her children. Charity enjoys theatre, and brings her son often. This past year, she discovered her gifts as an intuitive medium. You can visit her personal website at:


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